For the first time ever I discussed with a close friend who knows us both very well about whether we should break up. I made a list or good things & bad things about her:
She can be wonderfully supportive and bring out the best in me.
The sex is still pretty good.
She is funny, bright, and interesting.
She's helped me out alot when I've been in a jam.
Her parents love me, and my parents love her.
We've lasted now 8+ months, so that must mean something.
We have a deep level of understanding between us.
She is incredibly controlling and possesive of me and my time.
She flies off the handle at the slightest provocation and is very unstable.
She makes remarks from time to time that I find blatantly racist/classist.
Sometimes she seems incredibly lacking in common sense, and defensive about it.
She goes off on total strangers in public over minor issues.
She goes to counseling, but does'nt ever use the time for anything.
She's a total hypochondriac, to the point of letting it get the best of her.
Yesterday she threw a total shitfit because I wanted to spend time with Matthew this weekend, which would be only the 2nd time in 6 months or so I've made plans w/o her.
She often refuses to take responsibility for her time.
I don't want to leave her, but this is really pushing it.